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Postby fafner » 15 years ago

"Soul Rokkuman" wrote:Sometimes I think, where are now those boys and girls whom humiliated me in the past.. obviously, I don't really wanna know, but, destiny is so playful.. maybe I'll meet them some day.

I have often thought about what would happen if someday I met one of the bullies of my childhood. Would we have an adult discussion on our respective childhood? Or would they try to bully me as if I still were the frightened little boy I was at the time? So far it never happened, with one exception. While I was waiting for a bus alone early in the morning many years ago, one of them arrived a few minutes later to wait for the same bus. We didn't exchange a single word, as if we hadn't known each other. I never knew whether he/she had recognized me.
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Postby Astro Forever » 15 years ago

"fafner" wrote:We didn't exchange a single word, as if we hadn't known each other. I never knew whether he/she had recognized me.
That's how it went when I did meet people who hadn't been nice to me (and it's impossible that they didn't recognize me).

It took me a long time, but I found a good way to turn people off. For example, if you're told "You're stupid", just reply "okay, so I'm stupid, do you feel better now that you've said it? Is there something else?" (with an ironic tone, of course!).

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Postby Soul Rokkuman » 15 years ago

"fafner" wrote:[QUOTE=Soul Rokkuman;92927]Sometimes I think, where are now those boys and girls whom humiliated me in the past.. obviously, I don't really wanna know, but, destiny is so playful.. maybe I'll meet them some day.

I have often thought about what would happen if someday I met one of the bullies of my childhood. Would we have an adult discussion on our respective childhood? Or would they try to bully me as if I still were the frightened little boy I was at the time? So far it never happened, with one exception. While I was waiting for a bus alone early in the morning many years ago, one of them arrived a few minutes later to wait for the same bus. We didn't exchange a single word, as if we hadn't known each other. I never knew whether he/she had recognized me.[/QUOTE]

Uh.. what an uncomfortable situation :( ........
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Postby AstroRex » 15 years ago

Bullying is always done by kids who are so insecure, that the only way they can feel good about themselves is when they act mean towards others or say or do things where they feel like they have some sort of "power" over other people. In reality, these kids suffer from underlying mental and/or emotional issues that you never hear from them: Problems at home, problems with parents, divorce, anger, health issues, etc. These issues make them feel "powerless" at home, so in order for them to feel better, they act like bullies in school.
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Postby cybotron » 15 years ago

Heh Heh! :w00t:
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Postby Bakabits » 15 years ago

I have something to say on this topic. Even though we try to stop bullying it will always be there. As an 8th grade honor student I know that the best way to deal with bullying is to try to ignore it. If the bullying continues you should tell an authority figure at the school, camp or wherever you are. As soon as you feel you are being bullied the best person to tell is your parent or guardian. They can help you almost right away. I used to be bullied in school all the time but now i have a ton of friends who will stick up for me. Remember, don't even show a sign of reaction to the bully. That will make it worse. Thank you for your time. :)
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Postby cybotron » 15 years ago

You can never really get rid of it....
Bullying gives rise to Hazing, and hazing becomes persecution.
There always seems to be something. At every stage of life.
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Postby jeffbert » 15 years ago

"sonicx137" wrote:I have something to say on this topic. Even though we try to stop bullying it will always be there. As an 8th grade honor student I know that the best way to deal with bullying is to try to ignore it. If the bullying continues you should tell an authority figure at the school, camp or wherever you are. As soon as you feel you are being bullied the best person to tell is your parent or guardian. They can help you almost right away. I used to be bullied in school all the time but now i have a ton of friends who will stick up for me. Remember, don't even show a sign of reaction to the bully. That will make it worse. Thank you for your time. :)

I would think that by telling on them, they would likely become all the more bothersome. They would say you were the teacher's pet or something like that. By relying on adults to solve your problems with other kids, you would give them even more reason to disrespect you.

I myself could never ignore their teasing, & usually gave them what they sought: I cried. But occasionally, I fought them. I always lost, as it was my one fist against each of their two, & they, having more in common with each other, than with me because I was crippled, ganged up on me. :cry:

I advise that you ignore their words as best you can, knowing that they tease you in order to relieve their own insecurities. I was teased by many, but 1 in particular was the youngest of 3 boys, and was himself teased by his elder brothers. When his face was injured & severely distorted, he threatened me, saying that I had better not say anything about his face. Although it did not occur to me at the time, as I really did want to hurl taunts at him the way he had done to me, I now release that his threat was literally the same as his admitting that he could not endure teasing. He might have cried just as I had, & he could not bear the thought of breaking down and crying in front of those whom he made cry with his own cruelties. :d evil:
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Postby Laughing Dragon » 15 years ago

What's sad is that bullying wasn't taken very seriously by school administrators, like it was a rite of passage or something, until kids started taking guns to school. :eek:

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Postby cybotron » 14 years ago

"cybotron" wrote:Oh in case you didn't know...
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