Captive against my will: A serious topic

[PuppetMasterKuruku]

I have a story to share with you all, it's not on topic at all and it's pretty serious as well.

For the last few years, I have been plotting to move in with my friend. He is my best friend in the world, and the greatest person I've ever met, and could possibly be called a saint for what he's done for me. My dad, who has been making me miserable for years, is very controlling and won't let me shave or check the mail without his consent.

He has been complaining for some time that I'm good for nothing, and that he would rather I move out. I finally mustered up the courage alongside my friend to tell him the truth, that I intend to live with him. My dad completely snapped. I knew he was evil, but I can see just how justified my fears of him were now. I think he may be the most wicked man I've ever seen, and that my mother was right.

He called my friend a bastard, yelled at us at the top of his lungs, and was angry at my friend for "brainwashing me into wanting to leave". He threatened to have my friend shot, and also was just about ready to hit me, but my friend stopped him. He believes my friend's family is bad and that he is good. He says that "I know I'm incompetent" and that I can't think for myself.

He intends to take this to court, use the fact that my friend's dad is in jail and his mom is on a business trip, leaving him to take care of his siblings, intends to have me examined to see if the court finds me incompetent, and intends to use "brainwashed" and "suicidal" to describe me.

My friend is no longer welcome to see me, and I have enlisted help from everybody I know. My dad is gloating that I won't see my friend again, and that he never loses a court case, and that nobody ****s with him. He says he wants to "protect me from myself", and is trying to brainwash me into succumbing to his will and believing he is not the fiend he is.

[jeffbert]

There is nothing anyone here can do for you except offer empathy. I will say this though, & please do not take this the wrong way, but when I was your age, I thought similar things, though not as extreme as you describe. In retrospect, I realize that I was just a confused kid.

[CommanderEVE]

Wow, your dad reminds be of some one I once knew. It was my sister’s dad.

I don't know what to say... I really don't, but all I want to say for now is... That your dad doesn’t respect you at all so don't give him any respect. And go to your friend’s house and call the police. If you say to them that your dad was trying to hurt you and raise any fist. Then you can get him done of that if you have enough proof.

That’s what I would do.

[DrFrag]

I don't know how old you are, except that you're old enough to shave. Are you old enough to legally leave home and the protection of your parents under the laws of your country? If so, I don't see how he could stop you. Or how a court could force you to stay in a potentially disfunctional or emotionally abusive situation. But I know very little of these things.

My only recommendation is to document and date everything that happens. If it goes to court, it's good to have a record of things.

However this turns out, I wish the best for you.

[fafner]

What frightens me here is if the judge is told about some kind of "autistic spectrum disorder", then rightly or wrongly, PuppetMasterKuruku might be considered legally irresponsible. In this case it's over

[Anapan]

I know that in Canada, the legal age of emancipation is 18 (though in court exceptions can be made and in the right situation guardians can or will be provided, tho that can be very difficult), and aparently it is the same in the USA. (wikipedia link emanicapation) . That means that if the law is involved, depending on your age you could be in for a difficult forced foster parent deal. I've known 2 people like your dad, and although they may believe they know what's right, you need to know that they are not always right (you probably figured that out long ago...). My best friend (he's 22 now btw) was in a similar situation and moved in to an apartment with his friend. His dad went nuts trying to find him, calling everyone my friend knew to find to find out where he was, trying to control his son even tho he's been a bad parent for way too long, and had little actual parentlike help to provide. His dad is a horrible drunk and several times a week says horrible things to anyone who will listen to him. I firmly believe in the right drunken mood he is capable of anything (I've whitnessed some bad things while staying at the house). I am loathe to lie but when he calls me in a drunken rage I will definitely not tell him where his son is.
I don't know you, or much about you, but I have some experience with a couple friends who have been in seemingly similar situations. If you can support yourself without a guardian (it sounds like you have a good reason to muster the will to do so), and if you have the will to go without guardianship you can put yourself in a better situation. Just remember that going back home can be very difficult, so make sure you make it work. Plan your move well.