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Postby Fauna » 14 years ago

This is probably an objectionable topic to some, but I really need some help on something that I can't get any help with. The moment this thread goes south, I am locking it, because I only need a bit of advice.

So, last semester, this Chinese girl came out of the Photographics room with a camera, and I was sitting in the hall drawing in my binder, since I had a spare in that period. As she passed by, I gave her a quick look, and my first thought was that she was sort of cute - a bit shorter than me, long hair and thick bangs dyed brown, and glasses with red frames. I went back to my book, and a moment later, she came back and asked if she could take a picture of me for her project. So, I pretended to be naturally writing, and she took her picture, then introduced herself. Her name was Ai Den, she shook my hand, and as she pulled her hand back, I swear that she deliberately trailed her fingers against mine.

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Since then, I started to use the Photographics room for the computers in third period (mostly since I knew that teacher really well, not because Ai Den took that class), but I got to know Ai Den a bit better. She was actually pretty pleased to know I was in the same grade as her (that's a tenth grade Photo class, so she thought I was in it...), and she acts like I do when I try to talk to her - nervous and pretty happy to be there - and any time I pass her in the hallway, she always waves and says hi, and I do the same. And one time I met her at the library, near the bus mall. We talked for a bit and I can't remember what it was about, but all I remember is how excited she was to see me, and how hard she was trying to understand my English.

But I don't know what I'm doing. Does Ai Den like me, or is she just really happy to know me? I think she's absolutely adorable, but I also wouldn't mind having another friend. I need to find out how she feels, because otherwise it's going to haunt me long after graduation. But how do I do this?!

Some of my female friends have complained about not knowing what to do when they like a boy. I usually tell them that they're lucky, since they can write the person they like a letter and not worry about being tormented later.

I could just find out what Ai Den feels, if anything, and I could be happy leaving it at that. I've only ever had one girlfriend in the past, and that one didn't even think of me as a date, and it all went into the ground after she got into clubbing.

...So AB-Online, what do I do?
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Postby Dr. Jerk » 14 years ago

I'm no professional at this sort of stuff, but I personally wouldn't go up to her and ask her right out, or even subtly. If you do feel compelled to ask though, I would suggest that you be strongly careful in your choice of words, especially since she's not a native speaker of English from the looks of things.

If anything, I would just take things slowly. Perhaps be on the look-out for more cues... but hey, I'm no expert.

Also, sometimes people raised in different cultures may um, behave differently, for lack of better words... Such as, in one culture it may be offensive to look away from someone, whereas it may be rude to stare at someone in another.

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Postby Alittleacorn » 14 years ago

Hmmm, well to be honest I don't know a thing about dating, but it seems like Ai Den likes you. If it's as a friendship or runs deeper I can't be certian, the only thing I can suggest is to get to know her a bit more. =3

Sorry I wish I could give more advice but I've never gone out with anybody :lol:

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Postby Fauna » 14 years ago

@Dr. Jerk: I heard a while ago that girls are a little closer to each other in some Asian countries, but I'm not completely sure. I'll try to talk to her a little more, since there's some things I do have yet to know about her, and plus I could get more clues. The one goal I have through all this is to avoid looking awkward as hell, since...at the very least, having a friend would be great.


@Alittleacorn: Whoa, your post popped up right as I sent mine! :lol: But yeah, getting to know her better is the only thing I can do.

(Oh, well of course the Huang Chung song "Chinese Girls" comes up when I'm trying to write this reply...)
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Postby cybotron » 14 years ago

Just ask her....
What the heck? She can only say yes or no. Don't ask a girl how to approach a girl! :lol: :lol:
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Postby Fauna » 14 years ago

"cybotron" wrote:Just ask her....
What the heck? She can only say yes or no. Don't ask a girl how to approach a girl! :lol: :lol:


I'd love to do just that, but I can't. :lol: Maybe I'll have a little more courage to do so in a little while...it's Chinese New Year and our school is letting the English Immersion students celebrate throughout the building, so maybe that could be a good conversation starter.
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Postby diehard67 » 14 years ago

I would get to know her better before doing that.
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Postby The Tawashi Bus Hat » 14 years ago

:wub: That sounds so adorable. ^_^

Why not ask her to hang out with ya somewhere? Not necessarily a date, but just go out and have fun somewhere: the movies, lunch, shopping - small stuff. Just hang out somewhere besides school, ya know? Whether or not you two build a relationship that goes deeper than friendship, you can both still have a lot of fun together. :)

Reminds me of this transfer student we had in High School from Korea. Her name was Yee and OMG she was so adorable! xD Not like :heart: adorable, but I just wanted to hug her every time I saw her. I swear, she was like a living chibi.

But, I digress...whatever happens with you two, just have fun together. ^_^ No one says you have to rush any type of relationship, ya know?
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Postby AprilSeven » 14 years ago

I agree with the consensus your getting here, Fauna. Take 3 (or 4) deep breaths and just let life take its course -- and a solid friendship is the best base for any romance. TBH's idea is perfect -- get out of school (same as "work/office") and do something fun together.

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Postby Fauna » 14 years ago

"AprilSeven" wrote:I agree with the consensus your getting here, Fauna. Take 3 (or 4) deep breaths and just let life take its course -- and a solid friendship is the best base for any romance. TBH's idea is perfect -- get out of school (same as "work/office") and do something fun together.

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Thank you, this post especially picked me up a lot. :heart: I can do this!

I've been thinking of asking Ai Den to a movie if I see her tomorrow. I was previously thinking of taking her Black Swan, since everybody's been telling me it's great, but then I remembered hearing about the lesbian love scene in it and...well, that would just make everything weird.

"Wow, Jenna! I'm so happy you invited m...um, oh my."

Ah well, I'll let her choose a movie.
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