I don't know what to do anymore...

[AtomXKoisuru]

...my (ex)boyfriend cheated on me... just like my other past few boyfriends... i feel so lonely... and i feel used... i can't help but to ask myself... will i ever find someone that understands me...? loves me...? and won't use me?! no one in my school likes Astroboy, so looking for someone with my same intrests... relitively close age, and honnesty is next to impossible. i don't know what to do anymore... i'm not trying to sound desperate, but, i'm very lonely, i never get to see my friends... and i'm bullied constantly at school... for once in my life i just want to have the feeling that someone understands... and will be there for me, to be my shoulder to cry on... to be what i've been looking for...

[AprilSeven]

Be strong, Suru!!! You are just as strong as your "fursonality" -- and now is one of those times to believe it with all your heart!!

You've got lots of friends here, and a LOT of us have been bullied (me too) - I think perhaps because we all tend to be a bit more individualistic than the average person. But that's a GOOD thing, so do you best to ignore the hurtful things bullies too. As one who has been through it, I can almost certainly promise you two things: those bullies will fade away (some might even apologize or become friends) - and new bullies will appear. I have some at work. They lie, they ridicule and a lot of it really does come from jealousy and insecurity on their part.

I just hope you think about how you felt used by your ex-boyfriends - that's something you can change. Sometimes the most powerful and mature and wise thing you can do is hold back a little, and not trust too quickly. Your heart might be telling you one thing, but also listen to your head. Take things slow. A true friend and someone capable of becoming a real, lasting boyfriend won't have a problem with that.

And finally, not everyone finds their soulmate in their teens or twenties. You need to expect that it's probable that anyone you go out with now might not "fit" with you five or ten years from now - and that's okay. Each relationship brings wonderful memories, so try to focus on those as a gift, and learn from the painful parts.

I'm sorry that he cheated on you, Suru - that's a horrible pain to endure, but you're a smart, creative and strong young woman, and you WILL find someone special (and it doesn't matter if he doesn't care for Astro Boy - you can always come here and hang out with the rest of us Astromaniacs! :lol

[AtomXKoisuru]

You know what? your right. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
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[diehard67]

I was bullied so bad when I was a kid, so I know what you are going threw at school, that is why I have almost no idea how to make friends now.

as for the relationships, april is right, take it slow, get to know the guy as a friend for a good long while then move on to dating if you both want to go there, there needs to be lots of time between steps.

as for interests, don't worry about if you like things he doesn't and vice-verca, it doesn't matter, my ex wasn't an Astromaniacs like me or a linux geek, at the same time I didn't like all the teenybopper shows she watched, it is not a problem, as long as the people are respectful of each-others interests.

[Fauna]

I know exactly how you feel in this...I'd dated someone in late 2009, but our interests started to change (I got more into music, and her into...er...illicit substances) and I didn't hear from her for two months. Then suddenly I learn she's got a boyfriend, and augh, all the time in that gap that I'd spent sending her letters and worrying over her felt like a complete waste. I bummed around in feeling bad for myself (which is normal, as long as you don't take to stalking or self-harm) until I developed a crush on a Japanese jazz singer and that kept me at bay. Through some careful handling, she and I are still friends today (as long as she's not too high to get out of the bloody house...augh).

I guess what I'm trying to say is that the wound is raw, but tend to it, and your heart will come back to normal. You just need your distance from him for a while. As well, not every guy is gonna treat you like that, and people aren't always going to be cruel to you; things are gonna get bigger and better, and you'll soon have access to people who like the same things you do and like you. Here's something that may bring you up. It starts a bid strangely, but after a bit it'll become very reassuring.

[avatargirl]

hi- ATOMXKOISURU we are friends and i know APRIL and DIEHARD are your friends- anytime you want to chat let me or DIEHARD know- we can chat at his forum if you want- pray you eternal salvation and safety and happiness always- your AVATARGIRL friend always