I can't see why you should be banned for this.
It's understandable that when there is something wrong, people want react to it publicly. This is a public forum, after all. I'm thinking that it can be a good thing at times (it always depend on the context and what is said, obviously): a user who is not being respected might feel better knowing he is supported and the user who has said something questionable may be better able to understand from other people's reaction. However, if anobody feels the need to say something, there are ways to do that and remain respectful at the same time. And if somebody can't do that, certainly it would be much better to alert any moderator instead!
We (the moderators) really want to be notified of any problem, anything that makes a member uncomfortable, anything that somebody else thinks could make another member feel uncomfortable, or even anything that is annoying, really. We really want everybody to feel respected here. Also you have to understand that sometimes we do see things, but it can also happen that we are not aware of the particular context of a discussion, if other things have happened in the past, for example, so don't assume that we agree with something because we let it go.
I'm not sure how it looks on the forum, but we do try to do what we have to do. Perhaps sometimes it looks like we are slow; sometimes in the past I think we have been slower to react than we should have been, but usually just because something doesn't happen right away or isn't public doesn't mean that we are not doing anything. When something occurs publicly, I know that I tend to try to resolve that in private because I wouldn't want to cause even more stress or sadness to anybody by adding to an already difficult discussion.
I don't think anybody can pretend to always have the absolute best judgment in everything either, so should anybody think we are off in a particular situation, you can PM us, we will always listen to what you have to say! I know I wouldn't be offended, and knowing Vergere and Fauna, I don't think they would, either.