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I am sorry to hear about your cousin.
every time one of these things comes up I go over what to say like 400 times in my head and still can't get it to sound the way I would like it to so anyway hear goes.
I lost my dad (second step father but he was the only one that was any good at it) some years ago to cancer.
at the time I had no idea how to deal with the emotions I had, so I suppressed them (internal process, I would hold my emotion centre to a neutral state and keep it there till it settled), I didn't know that I was doing more damage then anything else.
the point is, you have to allow your self to feel your emotions, you don't have to hang on to em or push em around, just let em drift by, like watching a train roll past when your sitting on a hill, just let it rattle past, don't get on the thing and ride it.
I am told emotions feel like a wave washing over you when you do that right, just acknowledge that it exists and nothing further and it will wash over you, or at least that is how it has been described to me, I don't understand the wave thing, but then again I am so logical I am surprised I don't have an Intel inside sticker on my head lol.
oohh one other thing that just poped into my head, I have also been told that the fact you feel sad about something shows that you cared and loved it, your cousin in this case. so it sounds to me like he was really well loved, and there is nothing better in life then to be loved and sounds like he knew how you felt to.
I don't know if any of that mess will help but I sure hope so.
every time one of these things comes up I go over what to say like 400 times in my head and still can't get it to sound the way I would like it to so anyway hear goes.
I lost my dad (second step father but he was the only one that was any good at it) some years ago to cancer.
at the time I had no idea how to deal with the emotions I had, so I suppressed them (internal process, I would hold my emotion centre to a neutral state and keep it there till it settled), I didn't know that I was doing more damage then anything else.
the point is, you have to allow your self to feel your emotions, you don't have to hang on to em or push em around, just let em drift by, like watching a train roll past when your sitting on a hill, just let it rattle past, don't get on the thing and ride it.
I am told emotions feel like a wave washing over you when you do that right, just acknowledge that it exists and nothing further and it will wash over you, or at least that is how it has been described to me, I don't understand the wave thing, but then again I am so logical I am surprised I don't have an Intel inside sticker on my head lol.
oohh one other thing that just poped into my head, I have also been told that the fact you feel sad about something shows that you cared and loved it, your cousin in this case. so it sounds to me like he was really well loved, and there is nothing better in life then to be loved and sounds like he knew how you felt to.
I don't know if any of that mess will help but I sure hope so.
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I'm crying for real right now.
I know about this news by your email already, but I still want to tell you here how sorry I am. After all, you're one of the nicest people I know both in real life and on the Internet. 98% people at school hate me. Today a teacher accused me for cheating when I didn't do it, then asked me to clean the classrooms. You're a million times nicer than these people and a good friend. Therefore, I'll pray for your cousin.
And you.
(Edit) I feel so sorry for all of your losses, guys. (Prays)


(Edit) I feel so sorry for all of your losses, guys. (Prays)

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Though, I try to be more open-minded about it and accept it as an "interesting stage of my life". 


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"diehard67" wrote:I am sorry to hear about your cousin.
every time one of these things comes up I go over what to say like 400 times in my head and still can't get it to sound the way I would like it to so anyway hear goes.
I lost my dad (second step father but he was the only one that was any good at it) some years ago to cancer.
at the time I had no idea how to deal with the emotions I had, so I suppressed them (internal process, I would hold my emotion centre to a neutral state and keep it there till it settled), I didn't know that I was doing more damage then anything else.
the point is, you have to allow your self to feel your emotions, you don't have to hang on to em or push em around, just let em drift by, like watching a train roll past when your sitting on a hill, just let it rattle past, don't get on the thing and ride it.
I am told emotions feel like a wave washing over you when you do that right, just acknowledge that it exists and nothing further and it will wash over you, or at least that is how it has been described to me, I don't understand the wave thing, but then again I am so logical I am surprised I don't have an Intel inside sticker on my head lol.
oohh one other thing that just poped into my head, I have also been told that the fact you feel sad about something shows that you cared and loved it, your cousin in this case. so it sounds to me like he was really well loved, and there is nothing better in life then to be loved and sounds like he knew how you felt to.
I don't know if any of that mess will help but I sure hope so.
Thank you, diehard67. I'm sorry to hear about your step-father; and thank you for the advice and kind words.
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"Kuo-Yi" wrote:I'm crying for real right now.I know about this news by your email already, but I still want to tell you here how sorry I am. After all, you're one of the nicest people I know both in real life and on the Internet. 98% people at school hate me. Today a teacher accused me for cheating when I didn't do it, then asked me to clean the classrooms. You're a million times nicer than these people and a good friend. Therefore, I'll pray for your cousin.
And you.
(Edit) I feel so sorry for all of your losses, guys. (Prays)![]()
Thank you so much, Kuo-Yi.
You're one of the best friends I've ever met; we could practically be sisters, we're so alike and so close!
I thank you for praying for Darin and praying for me and for others who have lost their loved ones. I hope I never have to lose you before we meet, Kuo-Yi.

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Sorry for your loss
really awesome that he was also in Tezuka and Chibili in the west it may very well happen that non of your relatives is into anime (or even care to know if they like it or not) i wished i would have had someone like that.

really awesome that he was also in Tezuka and Chibili in the west it may very well happen that non of your relatives is into anime (or even care to know if they like it or not) i wished i would have had someone like that.

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